I’m having the craziest moments of pregnancy/labor indecisiveness. My internal conversations go something like this,
* we’re totally ready for this baby to be born! Like, today!
* all we have to do is set up the queen bed and re-arrange the nursery, then we’ll be ready
* I’d rather have another c-section than try to give birth (again)
* there’s nothing else we need to buy
* I’ll be ready for the baby once the hospital bag is packed
* no wait, I need to wash a few more loads of laundry before I’m done packing the hospital bag
* maybe we should buy that larger diaper pail we’ve always talked about getting?
* I really don’t want to have another c-section
* I can totally handle two babies (and a dog) in our cozy LA apartment!
Someone, please tell me these thoughts are normal? And my sweet husband, he listens to me change my mind multiple times a day while my thoughts run wild. I went on a crazy cleaning kick on Sunday and scrubbed down our entire kitchen. (Yep, and totally over did it.) These final days of pregnancy can be so hard — the simplest tasks feel nearly impossible (like painting my toes), but I know this is all totally natural.
Slowing down is the best way to prepare for a baby, don’t you agree? It’s so good for our souls.
take a nap!
It’s totally normal to have an ongoing commentary. There’s nothing in the hospital bag you actually need. The diaper pail will be fine. Maybe go buy an extra Twix bar.
But first, take a nap.
Girl, I nap every day! :)
I’m feeling the same way Maggie. The other day I felt uncomfortable and so ready for this baby girl to be here. But, then I started feeling a few contractions and felt like, “Wait just a week…I have so much to do before you get here!” Probably a good thing they usually come on their timing (and always on God’s timing) and not our own! Hugs, mama! I’m a week behind you, but I’m right there with you <3
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It’s natural, you’ll do great, and little details will figure themselves out! Can’t wait to hear about your sweet baby!
I can totally relate. I’m only 31 weeks with my second but I’m already having all of those mixed feelings. I also labored with my first and pushed for several hours and ended up having to have a c-section and I’m so nervous about this time around. Good luck these last few days- hope you can get some rest!
Agreed! I’m only 23 weeks with my second, but feel the crazies every day. My boys will be 16 months apart, we JUST got 2 crazy puppies who refuse to be house broken, I have absolutely zero extended family to help me and…. We thought another baby would be… A great idea??? :) oh and yesterday I decided steam cleaning my carpets would be a solid idea.
Hehe — I’m so glad I’m not alone in this! Did I mention I want to rent a steam cleaner for our rug? ;)
Sounds normal to me. I had a Csection with my daughter and it was kind of scheduled (we tried to flip her with a version, but had a set date). I remember the whole week before being like okay we’re ready, no I’m not, I hope the version works, Maybe a Csection will be easier, I still have this and this and this to do.
Just think of that moment when you will get to hold that baby in your arms for the first time and meet him/her face to face and hopefully all that stress will wash away.
That is exactly what I’ve been doing when I can’t stop the wishy-washy thoughts. It’s going to be such an exciting time… I’m definitely ready for that part of having a baby :) eeeeeek!!!!
I’ve had five kids and with every single one I got crazy emotional at the end, with a zillion conflicting thoughts! The worst was the braxton hicks. “Is it time? I rhink it might be….no, maybe not.” Thank goodness for patient husbands! Lol.
Totally normal, but I do have to say this, as a mom to 2, both c-sections and I didn’t have the option the second time around, I had to have a c-section. Totally try and do it without getting the c-section, even if it is a horrible struggle and in the end you end up with a c-section, you will always be so glad and proud that you gave it your best and did all that you could humanly do! There is no way around it, c-sections blow, but in the end God is the only one who knows what will happen and if you do end up with another it isn’t the end of the world, I promise!!!!
You are totally right! We found out a week ago, since I had a c-section (failed induction) for my first pregnancy they won’t be inducing me this time around. I’ll either go into labor naturally or they’ll do a c-section. Whatever the outcome, our goal is for a healthy baby and mama. Thank you for sharing a bit of your experience & encouragement… <3
I’m not as close to delivery as you, but those thoughts totally go through my mind (usually while I’m trying to fall asleep at night!!) The c-section one especially! I’m so excited for you!
Sometimes I think of it like a little game — what really, truly needs to be done and what am I doing just to avoid thinking about labor and all the craziness that comes along? ;) On the other hand, having these kind of thoughts has made me super productive. So many projects are now complete, yeow! xoxo
Totally normal friend. But makes you feel a little nuts! I have 3 littles and am pregnant with #4. I went into labor completely naive with #1…ended up with an emergency c-section after laboring to 6cm because her cord was wrapped around her neck. Completely was NOT prepared mentally for a c-section. With #2 i planned for a “normal” delivery, but my water broke spontaneously at 35weeks — they did give me a small amount of pitocin to start contractions since i never had any on my own–after 24 hours and no dilation, I ended up with c-section #2. With #3 I thought my only option was another c-section….at 35 weeks….yes, 35 weeks, after about a week of up all night reading and research and a c-section scheduled for week 39, I switched doctors and hospitals to try a VBA2C! Since my two sections were not because my labor didnt progress and my scars were low transverse and I might want more kids, statistically a vba2c was a good option for me! At 42 weeks and 3 days after a foley bulb induction and 24h of labor our little guy was born. An awful & wonderful experience! Labor is SO hard. My epidural only worked for 10 minutes:/ Unfortunately. All that said, I am so glad i went with one of my crazy-35 weeks-pregnant thoughts! Now with baby #4 I do have the option of safely vbac-ing again! Not really “looking forward” to it, but a c-section recovery wasn’t a cup of tea either:) Good luck momma! Prayers for a safe delivery however it happens!! :)
I had an “emergency” c-section with kiddo #1. With kiddo #2, I switched to a VBAC-friendly doctor at 33w and had a perfect VBAC. With kiddo #3, I switched to a midwife at 37w and had the most wonderful home birth. Each of my births was completely different, but I have to say that my first VBAC was so special! Prayers that you have the exact birth that you want!
Thank you Heather! This is super inspiring!
I just said to my husband last night, “I want this baby to come out right now, but when I feel my back cramping up I’m reminded of how badly labor is going to hurt. At least it’s just only for one day. But then when you think about it more, the second our son comes out — we are parents of two children. We’ll have two kids. TWO. These are our children. He’ll be here to stay. We’re gonna be so tired. SO so tired. And there’s no turning back.”
Cheers to having babies soon! But not soon would be fine, too…
Oh how this reminds me of myself one year ago. I so wanted to be done with being pregnant but whenever I’d think about having 2 I panicked haha. It was a difficult transition from one to 2 but so worth it. I can’t believe my baby is going to be one on the 30th! Can’t imagine life without him now!
Let the ‘stalking Maggie’ begin! I am so excited for you, and cannot wait to hear about a healthy baby and to learn the gender/name!!! Enjoy these last few days with just Maxwell!! **I have twins, so I don’t have to have the ‘last day with my only child’ day!! lol….ANOTHER plus of having twins! :)
Hehe, oh the perks ;) and thank you for the well wishes!